Yes to knitting as a beautiful regulator. And how powerful your work is on self compassion. Your inner voice is not uncommon, thank you for sharing. I’m sure it will help someone else acknowledge theirs. I love your response to that voice. Full of compassion and truth.
Hi Erin, You've just confirmed another reason I would like to be a knitter! I imagine myself being a knitter, but when I've tried to learn it just wasn't enjoyable. It was stressful because it felt hard to learn. Good for you that you are so talented at it and it is relaxing and even regulating!
I can relate to feeling like I'm not living my purpose. I am retired and living a relaxed slow easy life. My husband and I take good care of each other, staying healthy by supporting each other in eating well, seeing good Doctors, etc. But outside of that, I don't feel that I am necessarily "contributing" to the whole of society. I see a lot going on politically I do not condone and am not doing my part to stop what is happening. I'm glad to hear you are working on feeling you are deserving. Our inner voices can certainly be critical at times.
The transition from pediatricians and pediatric specialists to adult medicine is a huge transition, especially when there are many. We found the transition from pediatric to adult endocrinologists was the smooth one, and we did not have to switch to an adult cardiologist since her heart issues were congenital. However, primary care and all her other docs were a nightmare. I wish you the best in this transition.
Since her death I am experiencing so many somatice issues from the impact of stress, I really appreciated the embedded meditation.
Oh Nancy you well know this challenge. Yes the transition to adult teams is so hard. There is so much more tenderness and compassion in the pediatric world.
Your somatic manifestations of your grief are really sitting deeply with me. So much for one body to process. Do try this meditation and call on all the mothers who have lost and know your pain. See what comes out of it for you and please keep sharing and reaching out. It’s a gift for me and this community.
Thank you for this reminder Tanmeet. I have not been sleeping this week and work is hard right now. Accepting what is and sitting with the discomfort while also caring for myself is not something I remember to do. I have been breathing with longer exhales though! I hope the appointment went well and that the universe has blessed your family with a fantastic new medical team. 🤗
Such a wonderful topic for us this week, Tanmeet! Your explanation of why the brain/ body feels safe or not safe is so right on. Lately I have been getting into Hibiscus tea and ashwagandha to help in feeling grounded. Talk about change, our political atmosphere has me reeling and in shock! I am learning about the Vagus Nerve to be able to help my mind and body. Consciously breathing deeper to be activating my vagus nerve and calm myself. A practitioner I know says Hibiscus is an herb she uses heavily as an adaptogen. I had never seen it that way before. I know it lowers blood pressure, I guess by lowering stress too :) I've read that ashwagandha is great for the thyroid and for stress. I think a good amount of Magnesium is always helpful too.
Zubin is lucky you are his Mom. 21! He is a young man now. Yeay Zubin! I hope he likes his new medical team once he gets used to the change. May the new Doctors on his team be sweet compassionate people who realize how special Zubin is. By the stories you've told us I know he is. I remember a joke I read once, the only person who likes change is a baby with a wet diaper. OK, I'm being irreverent, I know...
I really loved this Tanmeet, thank you for sharing it. The new things that particularly resonated with me were the idea of cultivating sense of safety through physiological changes and ritual. I have come to learn recently that they are so powerful.
But I think the most important thing that you mention is that life IS uncertainty - and the importance of embracing that is far more important than trying to control everything and make it all certain (and I suspect boring too).
Yes to knitting as a beautiful regulator. And how powerful your work is on self compassion. Your inner voice is not uncommon, thank you for sharing. I’m sure it will help someone else acknowledge theirs. I love your response to that voice. Full of compassion and truth.
Hi Erin, You've just confirmed another reason I would like to be a knitter! I imagine myself being a knitter, but when I've tried to learn it just wasn't enjoyable. It was stressful because it felt hard to learn. Good for you that you are so talented at it and it is relaxing and even regulating!
I can relate to feeling like I'm not living my purpose. I am retired and living a relaxed slow easy life. My husband and I take good care of each other, staying healthy by supporting each other in eating well, seeing good Doctors, etc. But outside of that, I don't feel that I am necessarily "contributing" to the whole of society. I see a lot going on politically I do not condone and am not doing my part to stop what is happening. I'm glad to hear you are working on feeling you are deserving. Our inner voices can certainly be critical at times.
The transition from pediatricians and pediatric specialists to adult medicine is a huge transition, especially when there are many. We found the transition from pediatric to adult endocrinologists was the smooth one, and we did not have to switch to an adult cardiologist since her heart issues were congenital. However, primary care and all her other docs were a nightmare. I wish you the best in this transition.
Since her death I am experiencing so many somatice issues from the impact of stress, I really appreciated the embedded meditation.
Oh Nancy you well know this challenge. Yes the transition to adult teams is so hard. There is so much more tenderness and compassion in the pediatric world.
Your somatic manifestations of your grief are really sitting deeply with me. So much for one body to process. Do try this meditation and call on all the mothers who have lost and know your pain. See what comes out of it for you and please keep sharing and reaching out. It’s a gift for me and this community.
Thank you for this reminder Tanmeet. I have not been sleeping this week and work is hard right now. Accepting what is and sitting with the discomfort while also caring for myself is not something I remember to do. I have been breathing with longer exhales though! I hope the appointment went well and that the universe has blessed your family with a fantastic new medical team. 🤗
Glad the reminder came at a good time. Thank you for the kind words. All will be ok, it’s often the transition that is the most anxiety provoking.
Such a wonderful topic for us this week, Tanmeet! Your explanation of why the brain/ body feels safe or not safe is so right on. Lately I have been getting into Hibiscus tea and ashwagandha to help in feeling grounded. Talk about change, our political atmosphere has me reeling and in shock! I am learning about the Vagus Nerve to be able to help my mind and body. Consciously breathing deeper to be activating my vagus nerve and calm myself. A practitioner I know says Hibiscus is an herb she uses heavily as an adaptogen. I had never seen it that way before. I know it lowers blood pressure, I guess by lowering stress too :) I've read that ashwagandha is great for the thyroid and for stress. I think a good amount of Magnesium is always helpful too.
Zubin is lucky you are his Mom. 21! He is a young man now. Yeay Zubin! I hope he likes his new medical team once he gets used to the change. May the new Doctors on his team be sweet compassionate people who realize how special Zubin is. By the stories you've told us I know he is. I remember a joke I read once, the only person who likes change is a baby with a wet diaper. OK, I'm being irreverent, I know...
Jean you’re doing so much for your health. I love it. I’ve never used hibiscus as an adaptogen but I use it routinely for BP.
I really loved this Tanmeet, thank you for sharing it. The new things that particularly resonated with me were the idea of cultivating sense of safety through physiological changes and ritual. I have come to learn recently that they are so powerful.
But I think the most important thing that you mention is that life IS uncertainty - and the importance of embracing that is far more important than trying to control everything and make it all certain (and I suspect boring too).
Thank you again :)
Zan I’m glad it resonated and I couldn’t agree more! Embracing that brings a great sense of ease to be honest.